The following poem is by William Stafford, titled “Ask Me”; and is quoted by Parker J. Palmer on pg 1, in the 1st chapter of his book, “Let Your Life Speak”.
“Some time when the river is ice ask me mistakes I have made. Ask me whether what I have done is my life. Others have come in their slow way into my thought, and some have tried to help or to hurt: ask me what difference their strongest love or hate has made.
I will listen to what you say. You and I can turn and look at the silent river and wait. We know the current is there, hidden; and there are comings and goings from miles away that hold the stillness exactly before us. What the river says, that is what I say.”
Perhaps we should tell others to ask us what mistakes we’ve made, as the poet does. Now that is something to think about.